Being With Yourself

     Because its okay to be alone. And by alone I do not mean lonely. Because there is a slight yet significant difference between the two. Being alone should be a feeling that makes you completely okay with being with no one other than yourself. The lack of the feeling of constantly being with people. The demise of the feeling that you need them for your survival. You need them to approve of who you are. Because you don't. You do not need their approval, or their opinion of who you are. If they like you, that's okay and if they don't then maybe they just don't really see you as you do. Or maybe they have their own personal reasons to believe that things shouldn't be the way that they are. And you have to be completely fine with that. Because each individual here is living a life as vivid and complex as yours. And we all need to respect that. And before anyone else you yourself need to realize that. Not to please anyone else but for your own peace of mind. Because you deserve that. You deserve being comfortable with who you are and why you chose to be that person. Before anyone else, you need to befriend yourself. Love yourself and take care of yourself. Make yourself happy and adore yourself. Because you deserve all of that.   

    And to love yourself, you do not need to hate the rest of the world. You are a part of it. And are as important to it as any other individual. Because by hating someone, you only hurt yourself. By keeping that grudge inside. it's your own soul that you burn. And you need to stop doing that. Because just as you have your reasons. every other individual has them too. Nobody chooses to be vile. They are not born to hurt. They are also born to spread their love just as you are. They also desire care and affection like you do. They also crave for attention and their heart also pounces at even a little ounce of it offered to them. So when someone is unjust to you, hurts you or puts you down, just smile it off. Because people don't want to do that to you. Their situations compel them to do that. And sometimes they have no control over it. Sometimes in their quest for love, care, attention or recognition they fail to see what you have to offer. Be fine with this fact. Because you took time to understand that. And someday even they will. Till then just smile off this confusion. Don't let their attitude direct yours. Because you've got one of your own. And you need to flaunt that. You need to reflect that. You only reflect what you absorb. So take in all the good from the world. Let your selfish self be out and grab all that shines, into you, inside your soul. And let that make you shine brighter everyday. Not to please anyone. Not to show it to anyone. But just so that every night you go to bed with a smile and wake up with one as well.   

    And don't be afraid to not find people with like mindedness. Because someday you will. The day when you stop looking for them. That'll be the day you'll finally see them walking towards you. And maybe then you realize that all this while you didn't need them. When you had stopped being desperate to have them. Because just as the more you try to hold the sand in your fist, the faster it leaves it, the more to try to hold on to things, the more they slip off. So just let it be. And once you do that you'll find every worthwhile thing coming back to you. And this time you wouldn't have to hold on. This time it'll stay. And even if it doesn't you know you'll be fine. Fine with it, fine without it. Because you've learned to live with yourself and believe me it'll be the most beautiful feeling ever.  

    Sometimes you need to experience that. The time spent enjoying that hot cup of coffee alone or that glass of wine while you sit at the window sill seeing the city carry on with it's buzz as the city lights twinkle their way through. Sitting with your favorite book and marking those quotes that touch you. Watching your favorite movie while comforting yourself in that couch, with those cheese popcorn all by yourself. Seeing your favorite team win and jumping like a ten year old. Making yourself your favorite cuisine and lavishly treating yourself. Going out and getting yourself all those gifts that you've always desired. Listening to your favorite music. Those walks by the streets, talking in the fresh air, without any worries or concerns of the world around you. Reminiscing while looking at those old photographs. These are the little pleasures of life that you have to let yourself enjoy. These little perks that need to give yourself to pull you out of the frenzy of the rat race and slow down time for yourself. Because it's from these little pleasures that you refill yourself. And again in the morning make yourself ready to go out and present yourself to the world.You're special in every way possible and that is all that matters.